I’m often called upon for advice about real time cuckolding. Even though I am exclusively a pro phone domina, I know a thing or two about cuckolding out in the real world. This little article is all about planning and pacing a cuckold scene.
Communication
I can’t stress the importance of communication enough when it comes to cuckolding. Or any fetishy, BDSM, erotic play. The whole point is to enjoy the experience. Communication is the only way to ensure that each party is enjoying the experience along with you. And as I have said countless times on this blog, communication is important at every stage.
Before you do a cuckolding scene, talk about limits. Ask the bull what he likes, ask the cuckold what he wants and make sure above all else that the cuckoldress gives the green light on all fronts. If you want to truly bring her pleasure – you have to know what she really wants. Maybe you have been cucked hundreds of times but she has never expressed how much it would turn her on for you to prep. This is just one example but I am sure you can imagine there are countless others.
During a scene, pay attention to your partner. How is she reacting, how is the bull enjoying. Is there flinching, hesitation? I know that cuckolding is incredibly hot but being attentive to your partners needs can make that first experience amazing. And the truth is the vast majority of couples only try cuckolding once or twice and then forget it. Much to the dismay of one partner. Communicate well to make the first experience a happy one.
And after, recap what you liked and what you didn’t. Have some pillow talk time where you explore different fantasies you would like to try. Go over topics like the bull, how it felt vs. how you thought it would feel, etc.
Planning the Scene (or event, whatever you want to call it)
This is about logistics. Are you getting a hotel room or doing this at your home? Where are you finding the bull? Will it be an evening or just an afternoon delight? Who’s bringing the condoms, lube, other supplies.
After the more housekeeping things are out of the way, imagine in your head how you would like the scene/event to go and compare notes with your partner. Is it a whole fantasy scene where he walks in? Does the cuck stay in the closet? Think about each piece. Here is an example of a plan for a cuckold session:
All three meet for drinks. The Bull then starts flirting heavily with the wife/girlfriend. The cuck scurries off to the closet where he strips and waits for the show. The wife/girlfriend and bull follow after a bit and heavily make out. Then she sucks his cock and he returns the favor. They fuck and the bull leaves. The husband then comes out of the closet and cleans up.
Even if you aren’t a planner, I *highly* suggest something like this is considered. If I have learned anything from threesome play it is that a dominate personality is mandatory to get things going. Many times I have been in the room with others and it is like, “Well, we’re naked… now what.” You don’t want to have that as your first cuckold experience.
Pacing a Cuckold Scene
There is no rule, law or mandate that you have to do every single thing the first time. In fact, I suggest you don’t. I suggest you always take some care not to rush yourselves. Relax, enjoy each step. If a bull is servicing a pussy then by all means… let him service. Enjoy the moment instead of rushing to the next piece. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard from people about their first experience and it went way too fast. If you have a couple hours why not include some bathtime or something like that. I don’t mean watch the clock but, just relax. Enjoy. It’s all about the fun.
Now, pacing and planning any type of sex scene can be a bit intimidating. Yet, I promise you that rushing through only lessens the impact of the destination. And that’s true for real life or phone sex!
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Holly
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